As most know, Lisa Montgomery has been sentenced to death for murdering Bobbi Jo Stinnett and extracting her eight-months-old fetus from her womb. My book MURDER IN THE HEARTLAND features Carl Boman and Lisa’s story and chronicles their two marriages right up until the point Lisa plots and plans and finally murders Bobbi Jo. It shows how manipulative Lisa was and, essentially, proves that Lisa is a sociopath and pathological liar.
I asked Carl, now that the trial is over and Lisa has been sentenced, to write something exclusively for Crime Rant. Put some sort of understanding and end to this nightmare that has been a daily part of his and his children’s lives for the past three years.
As I said in a previous post, Carl was proven to be the truth-teller here. Before trial, many had claimed Carl was nothing more than a liar and charlatan, and the trial would flesh out his lies.
It never happened.
This is Carl’s story:
Matt asked me to write a short essay of my experiences during the trial, but the emotion—the one thing I’d like to express the most—is something I can’t convey. There are so many people who have been hurt from this. It was hard for the jury to hear and even the prosecution had a hard time, because of the kids, they didn’t want to have to question them on the stand, they knew how hard it was for them. The insanity argument by the defense was not at all believable. It was heartfelt by the defense team and I think they believed it. Each one of them had befriended Lisa over the past few years, but insane she was not. One thing people forget is that Lisa always wanted attention, this crime was not because Lisa was desperate for a baby, it was just another lie on her part. The lie of being pregnant got her attention, just like many other lies she told or things she did. She went to the well one too many times on this particular lie and she had to prove she was pregnant. Kevin was going to take off the day of December 17th (Bobbi Jo was murdered by Lisa on December 16th); I was going to use her lies against her in court to get custody of our kids; the rat terrier board was doubting her as well as the community; Lisa’s family was telling people she wasn’t pregnant. All of this backed her into a corner and she was desperate. But it wasn’t desperation to have a baby—it was desperation to cover up the lies. Some people don’t see that.
Lisa changed when we divorced that first time. The biggest change started when she was around people who didn’t know her. She could be whoever she wanted to be and her past could be whatever she wanted it to be. She played the victim and preached that everyone had been cruel to her. When we were together I knew her and she couldn’t lie. When she did I confronted her. It caused problems. In Melvern (Kansas, where she moved when we divorced and met Kevin Montgomery and remarried), she became—and played the role of—the victim of me and her family. She played it to the hilt, which is why she kept me and her family at bay: to keep the truth out. If she was not allowed to tell these lies, this wouldn’t have happened, but of course no one knew what she was plotting.
The evidence was so overwhelming. I got to see all of her Internet traffic the last month, and letters and IM conversations, and this was at the same time we were talking about custody. I now understand her confidence at the time, that she was going to “show me” and prove me wrong.
Carl was not a poster child for fathers across the country. But Carl was never the bad person in this, as some had claimed him to be. In the end, a woman is dead, a young woman with dreams and goals and plans for her and her child was senselessly murdered. A family lost an angel. A community lost someone that would have made great contributions. It’s sad, in a way, that the entire trial was about Lisa Montgomery, the cold-blooded killer who took that all away.
Then again, isn’t that what Lisa wanted more than anything else?